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Meantime girl…

28 Nov 2009 Leave a Comment

by humanikin in That darn thing

She’s the one you call when you’re bored because she makes you laugh. She’s the one you talk to when you’re feeling down because she’s willing

to lend an ear and be a friend. She’s not the one you call when you need a date to your company’s Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a

Saturday night. She’s the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find “The One”. You know, the one who you keep around in the

meantime. She’s not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don’t look at her as a “real” woman, either. She’s not bitchy enough, moody enough,

or sexy enough to be seen in that light. She’s too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She’s too

understanding, too comfortable – she doesn’t make you feel nervous or excited the way a “real” woman does. But she’s cool, and nice, and funny,

and attractive enough that when you’re lonely or horny and need intimate female companionship, she’ll do just fine. You don’t have to wine and

dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don’t have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You’re not trying to get

anything of substance out of her. She’s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she’ll give you the

intimacy you need. And you know you don’t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she’ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn’t the

beginning of a relationship or that there’s any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her. It won’t bother her that you’ll get up in

the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you’ve been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out

with you. She’ll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She’s just so cool. Why can’t all women be like

that?! But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don’t because to you, the situation between the two of you isn’t important

enough to merit any real thought), you know that it’s really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that

despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don’t think she’s good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it’s mostly her fault,

because she doesn’t have to give in to your needs – she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you

and she both know that she probably couldn’t pull it off. Maybe she’s too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark on her forehead, or

works at Taco Bell. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think

they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your

goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman. She doesn’t captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile.

Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She’s safe. She doesn’t want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she

wants to turn someone’s head. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do. She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has a

bigger and better heart than any woman you’ve ever known because she’s had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you

anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you’ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to

still be around, she is. Anyway, yeah. I’m a Meantime Girl. Been one more time than I care to admit. I don’t know the reason, really, and at this

point I don’t even care. I just want to let every guy know who’s ever had the good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but

we cry, too. A lot. And someday we won’t be around.

**from samantha sanchez (REBLOGED)**

–MEANTIME will surely be a MEAN-Y next time. you guys BEWARE!